I just achieved one of the things on my bucket list.
I’ve always wanted to influence someone’s life for the better, instill some wisdom that might actually come to be useful in the future, and I think I just did it. I’m doing pretty good time, considering I’ve only been on this planet for sixteen years.
So how did I do this?
I was talking to my friend
whose name I can’t say, who’s actually one of my closest guy friends here in Burlington, and we came onto the topic of my exboyfriends and his idea of how sex should be. The following is an excerpt from our conversation:
Him: I honestly don’t care if I’m not gonna be included in the guys sex talks, when I’m good and ready I want it to be with someone who I’m not constantly questioning.
Me: Wow. I didn’t think guys thought like that. I guess it’s no surprise, considering the douches that have fucked me over.
Him: Huh to that that last part. And most guys don’t I just care about people and their afterthoughts on me. I would say I’m emotional but I got a good heart
Me: That’s really cute.
Him: Thank you, that’s the one thing I got going for me :). And I still don’t understand the last part.
Me: Keep it going, it’s a really good thing to have. & I mean like it’s strange hearing that a guy has boundaries and feels uncomfortable about sex and cares about people’s feelings as opposed to just the physical part, because I’ve been hurt so badly by some dickwads that only care about either themselves or sex.
Him: Thank you, I shall. I really am sorry to hear about your past sounds like there’s been a bunch of stupid guys who’ve hurt you. I’ve been told I’m a pretty great listener if you wanna talk about it.
Me: Don’t worry about it, if you never get hurt you never learn to protect yourself in the future. Every past mistake, failure, or hurt builds your knowledge for what’s to come and helps you become better prepared. I’m sure you are, but really there’s nothing to say anymore. The past has passed, what’s done is done, and I’m okay with it now.
Him: That is very insightful! You’re a very deep person and have a great take on life.
Me: Thank you :). I can’t see a point to being anything but, we’re only on this earth once as far as we can remember so why not make the best of it? There’s no point dwelling on what we can’t change, or what has already happened.
Him: Sorry, that’s just so profound I had to tweet it.
Me: Haha no worries.
Him: That may have just influenced the rest of my life. :P
Me: I’m glad to have made a difference in someone’s life. That’s actually on my bucket list, I can knock that off now. :)
Him: Well you’re welcome. Glad I made a difference in your bucket list!
And that was that.